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You go Glen Coco !

 

I recently stumbled upon a tweet that said “being insecure is a waste of youth, nobody is above you”; which in more ways than one has led me to evaluate just how far I’ve come in terms of self-love and self-appreciation. As aforementioned in previous blog posts, I have had a hard time coming to love the skin that I am in and acknowledging parts of myself that I have previously not thought of in a positive light. I do find that sometimes you can’t win; I mean that in terms of being confident versus not being so confident. I personally think people want to be mean about something/someone before they can say something nice and even then, more time it’s backhanded. We all have insecurities, but it’s just some are better at hiding them than others.

Shoutout to my mum and sister for always backing a brother even when my self-esteem was in the gutter. Learning to love myself has been quite the journey if I do say so myself, but I have learnt and, in some ways, come to terms with the fact that ultimately you are responsible for the way you perceive yourself. Some people might not align you with their own standards of beauty, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder after all. Nobody can tell you shit if YOU of all people rate yourself to the highest degree.  

My mum has really taught me an incredible amount about being your own biggest fan and never settling for less than what you deserve and not to seek validation from anyone because you really can’t come and kill yourself for someone who is not on your level.

Anyways, the premise of this post was not only to shoutout the two most significant females in my life, but to also try and encourage you to be your own biggest fan. Seeking to validation or approval from other people will only hinder your own perceptions. I can and do understand that self-love is not something which can be attained easily but it can be something to work towards. Toni Tone (@t0nit0ne on Instagram and twitter) advocates for making lists of things/goals to achieve in order to help with confidence and I can only speak for myself but it has contributed to help in respecting my sexy.

 

Please note that I am peng but it’s a work in progress for me to come to terms with it.

Thanks

Management.


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