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Me, Myself and I


The topic of mental health is also something which I have expressed thoughts towards before but the damage words can do is not something we discuss until someone does the unthinkable, but even then it's mental health advocacy for a couple days then it's back to being a prick. We always tell each other to be kind to one another, and that we never know what someone else is going through but the fact of the matter is that we shouldn’t have to know what someone else is going through in order to establish whether or not that person deserves to be treated properly.

I don’t think people really conceptualise how even the smallest of comments can live with someone for the rest of their days. That sounds bare dramatic but it’s true. Sometimes I don’t think it’s not what someone says, I think it’s the delivery which can be more impactful than the message at hand. It can often turn into essentially living for someone else. Someone says something to you or does something to you and you think you owe them something because they have such an impact on the way you look at yourself and the narrative that you create for yourself when in reality it’s your life and at the end of the day; nobody is gonna back you the way that you do and that’s on what? PERIODT.

We are entitled to be in our feelings about things even if someone else doesn’t think it’s that deep. The sad reality is that nobody owes us a damn thing. Not one person. It really is just you against the world.

The premise of the message that I’m trying to get across is to live for yourself; sometimes think if someone would do the same for you that you would for them, shit kinda hurts but growing pains enable better versions of ourselves. You can’t help the way God made you but you can help the way you protect your own peace and protect the things and people that matter the most to you.

Look out for yourself and always have your best interests at heart. Issa cold world.


P.S. it might be a cold world but my dm's are still open x

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